Marriage isn’t easy. Spending many, many years with the same person can be challenging outside of the bedroom, but even more so behind the closed bedroom door. After 20 years of marriage, there is one thing that has helped my husband and I stay intimate more often than I should admit – anal toys.

Once I got past the embarrassment and shyness, our love life together has been sparked to an all-time high. We find ourselves rushing to the bedroom early in the evening and not leaving until we have to get up and get ready for work.

What has this done for our out of the bedroom lives? Well, we are excited to see each other at the end of a long work day. We spend our weekends together happily. We don’t seem to argue about the petty little things quite as much as we used to and I genuinely enjoy spending time home alone with him.

After the kids moved out of the house, we hit a lull. We didn’t have the kids to preoccupy us and keep us busy, so we had nothing to focus on but each other. This made it difficult for us to spend time alone without having a television on or a book in hand. Basically, we were sitting beside each other but not spending time together.

If I had one recommendation for a couple that is struggling with intimacy, it would be to consider widening your sexual horizons. If you are happy in the bedroom, you have a better chance of being happy while living your day to day life with the person that you have promised to spend the rest of your life with.

It is my hope that sharing my personal experience will help other couples explore themselves and find a new level of happiness long into their marriages.